By Eric Stradford, U. S. Marine Corps, Retired
AMWS, December 29, 2018 - Let me be the first to congratulate the disappointed, downtrodden, distressed and depressed friends-n-kin who have ever anticipated economic benefits from an emotional appeal. Confession, I’ve heard, is good for the soul. As a matter of faith or fact, healing results when good folks take action.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Yes, it’s true. Donald Trump is the President of the United States…STILL! Yes, it’s true. The federal government shutdown over a boarder wall, or, perhaps beautiful steel slats, a fence, “beaded curtain” or unprecedented shock and awe. You are no doubt anxious to see what a divided 116th United States Congress will do to protect and defend the Constitution “from all enemies foreign and domestic.”
As the elected consider their roles in “forming a more perfect union,” each of us, even me can consider a shared cause for healing. But, be careful, self-diagnosis could be as harmful as ignoring the problem.
Dissociation is a mental process that causes a lack of connection in a person’s thoughts, memory and sense of identity. My particular ailment stems from emotional experiences over a lifetime where the need for healing was, as Langston Hughes put it, a dream deferred. In my own experience, growing up as “the boy” with testosterone in a predominately estrogen household of emotionally endowed siblings may have shaped lifelong personality traits that were more transactional than transformative.
As you come to pray for my healing, know this.
Transient and mild dissociative experiences are common. Almost 1/3rd of people say they occasionally feel as though they are watching themselves in a movie, and 4% say they feel that way as much as 1/3rd of the time. The incidence of these experiences is highest in youth and steadily declines after the age of 20.
Transactional leadership and management focuses on supervision, organization, and performance. In pursuing a healing strategy, we’re cautioned that that folks leaning toward the transactional approach look to keep things the same instead of looking to change the future.
Transformational leaders, like my bride of a quarter of a century, serves to enhance motivation, morale, and job performance of followers through a variety of mechanisms; these include connecting the follower's sense of identity and self to a project and to the collective identity of the organization. Stephanie believes in being a role model for followers, inspiring them and raising their interest in a particular project.
Over the Christmas holiday, Stephanie and I discovered common ground for our politically bipolar partnership. As a result, we’re redirecting our efforts with new shared goals for a post-Trump America.
Some influential friends-n-kin have added value to vision on our journey from hurt to healed. Among them, Bill and C. DeLores Tucker, Grainger and Jo Ann Browning, Spencer and Juliette Bartley, Ofield Dukes and, Arthur Allen Fletcher.
In the seventies, Al Green sampled the Bee Gee’s 1971 release, How Can You Mend a Broken Heart. His journey to healing witnessed a trail of hurt that included an emotionally charged encounter with his girlfriend, Mary Woodson White.
Although she was already married, White wanted Green. An angry White doused Green with a pot of boiling grits while he was bathing. Police found a note inside White's purse declaring her reasons for causing severe burns on Green's back, stomach, and arms. They also found the .38 handgun with which she had killed herself.
Stephanie A. Walker Stradford paved her own pathway from hurt to healed during the seventies. After graduating from the University of Maryland, Stephanie put to test a new minority hiring policy and landed a studio engineering job with the likes of David Brinkley, Willard Scott and others at NBC Washington, DC.
Republican Arthur A. Fletcher, a former board chair for the United Negro College Fund, celebrated “four quarters” in what he called, “Victorious Living.” As U.S. Department of Labor Assistant Secretary for Wage and Labor Standards, Fletcher offered unique insights on being African American and unapologetically, Republican.
When Stephanie and I met Dr. Fletcher, he had discovered the formula for healing a broken heart. In the sixties, his family had been denied a rental house in Berkeley's white section. Continuing racial problems, combined with continuing economic pressures, took their toll, and Fletcher's wife, Mary, committed suicide.
In 2005, Arthur Fletcher called on us to plan an event commemorating The 36th Anniversary of what he called, The Affirmative Action Enforcement Movement. The event marked his implementation of the Revised Philadelphia Plan, which required federal contractors to meet certain goals for hiring minority employees.
Fletcher’s presentation on “the glasses’ endowed believers with an inclusive vision of America’s future. The event was Fletcher’s last public event. He died later that year at age 80.
After coordinating a star-studded homegoing and Arlington burial for Fletcher, Stephanie and Eric Stradford set out once again on their Learning Journey.
In the New Year, we are reaching out to seven-year-old Americans proposing an economically inclusive vision of their 21st Century futures. We’re learning that six-in-ten Millennials (59%) affiliate with the Democratic Party or lean Democratic, compared with about half of Gen Xers and Boomers (48% each) and 43% of voters in the Silent Generation.
Many of them see a need for alternative outcomes in both Republican as well as Democratic primaries, but few are ready, willing and able to lean right to make a difference.
In a 2005 study, the Pew Research Center identified nine typological groups. Three groups were identified as part of each, "the left," "the middle," and "the right." In this categorization system, "the right" roughly represents the Republican base, those on "the left" the Democratic base and those in "the middle" independents.
Within the left are the largely secular and anti-war "Liberals", the socially conservative but economically left "Conservative Democrats", and the economically "Disadvantaged Democrats" who favor extended government assistance to the needy.
In "the middle" are the optimistic and upwardly mobile "Upbeats", the discouraged and mistrusting "Disaffected” citizens, and the disenfranchised "Bystanders."
The right comprises the highly pro-business "Enterprisers," the highly religious "Social Conservatives" (also known as the Christian right), and the "Pro-Government Conservatives" who are largely conservative on social issues but support government intervention to better their economic disposition.